Dear Doctor, It is ok to say “I Don’t Know”

The past few days have been a whirlwind. A few years ago, my son saved my daughter's life and I dedicated this post to him. Well I woke up to her having what doctors are calling a febrile seizure yet again. She and I were supposed to be having a girls night because she did not have school the next day. Somewhere in the midst of deciding what to watch she fell asleep so I followed her only to be awaken by the sound of her struggling. She was burning hot and I told my husband to get her to the front door to cool off while I called 911.

Febrile seizures are convulsions brought on by a spike in temperature normally in infants and small children. Although extremely scary it is believed that they are not harmful. Approximately one in every 25 children will have at least one febrile seizure, and more than one-third of these children will have additional febrile seizures before they outgrow them. Febrile seizures usually occur in children between the ages of 6 months and 5 years and are particularly common in toddlers. Children rarely develop their first febrile seizure before the age of 6 months or after 3 years of age. The older a child is when the first febrile seizure occurs, the less likely that child is to have more. At 8 years old, I am trying to determine how my daughter fits into this statistic. The doctor sat across from me and tried her best to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear and I finally had to tell her that I preferred that she said, “I don't know” rather than pulling straws.

The reasons went from the flu after they swabbed her nose to a virus after she left them a present on the floor. Within minutes, my daughter was back to her jovial self as though nothing had happened. Her first request was Mac & Cheese and if she could go to school.

wpid-wp-1416626190535.jpegMaybe I am in the minority with this one but I prefer to hear the truth than a frilly answer. Realizing  I am my kids' best advocate, I have already set up appointments to build my medical and homeopathic team.  Utilizing the power of the internet, I have been able to locate groups of parents whose children did not fit the statistical equation and have begun chatting with them.

I am grateful for the guardian angel that saved my daughter and I pray it continues to watch over us.



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  1. thanks for sharing I don’t know where this whole idea of you have to know the answer thing came from, but I am not a fan. I am praying for you all
    Quick healing for the munchkin.

    Posted 11.22.14
  2. That sounds really scary. I’m glad she was back to herself right away. I know you are going to advocate well for her. Said a prayer for you all.

    Posted 11.22.14
  3. Speedy 1 wrote:

    It is always scary to have your child experience this. My child was duagnosed at the age of 7 she was medicated fir two years she is now 13 and hasn’t been on meds fir three years . We still do not know where they came from what caused them and why they went away. Infirmation is powerful . I am a 37 year old roman who has epilepsy still searching for answers. Be encouraged

    Posted 11.23.14

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