I just finished reading an article in the wall street journal “Who Are You Calling A Mama’s Boy?”. It was touching to me as I know my son and I will have a similar relationship. He already worries about me if he senses the slightest hint that I am not myself. There is so much his father could teach and show him, but there is nothing like a mother’s love. I am the first person that ever held him and I will always love him more than anyone else in ths world. But the world is the challenge.
Although I look toward his father for some things, I too encourage him to be a strong person. Not masculine per se, but someone that must be respectful and add value to this world. My husband and I both have high standards for him. Where I can be balanced with discipline and softness, my husband is definitely more focused on discipline. Here is where I do find the difference in my approach versus other moms, I do not ever say “wait until I tell your dad.”. If there is an issue with my son, I will address it directly. Being a mama’s boy is only bad when your child can use it against you. This occurs when you have given or delegated the power of parenting to only one parent.
At the end of the day he and I are still bussom buddies.
My daughter on the other hand, is raised with the same rigor as my son. The only exception is she DOES have control over my husband. She knows what to say and what to do to get her way. Unless she is caught in the act, my husband would never imagine his daughter has done a wrong.