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We have a new “Mona” this month, that needs you help. I have asked “Mona” to monitor your responses throughout the month.
Mona arrives home one day from work, and it feels like just another day. Then she opens her computer and it is evident that some very inappropriate videos on YouTube, ALMOST XXX, were being watched today. And it just so happened her pre-teen son had a half day of school today and was using the computer. Everyone knows that parents have to be aligned on this type of discussion. So she calls her husband Mike.
“Hey, honey. I have some very disturbing news to share are you busy?”, Mona starts.
Mike responds, “Kinda, just finishing up some work so I can get outta here, everything ok?”
“Not really. Marvin has been on YouTube watching these ‘VIDEOS’. Things just are not like it was when we were younger. Magazines and VHS tapes were one thing, but now there is instant access to everything.”
“HUH? What type videos?”
“Watching these girls shake their STUFF all over the place?”
“Wheeeeeww! I thought you were about to say…..”
“WHAT! Is THAT all you are worried about? So if he is ‘straight’, its ok?”
“I’m not saying that, but you know what I mean. Hit CTRL-H, and see what he has been watching.”
“NO! I don’t know what you mean. Whether it was women OR MEN it is inappropriate for his age. Anyway, … OOOOOH SH******!”
“It is a lot worse than I thought! It isn’t just YouTube, there is stuff in here for months. All kind of X-rated sites, where did I go wrong that he would want to degrade women like this,” Mona starts sobbing.
“IT IS OK, don’t worry about that, those are sites I use.”
“WHAT THE F*CK! Are you saying he gets this stuff from you?”
“Stop tripping, it ain’t even serious like that. I’m not cheating on you. So, what is the big deal if I watch some videos?”
Ok, so as you can imagine Mona is a little perplexed by this. It is one thing, when you husband is doing something on his own. It is a TOTALLY different experience when the actions of the husband are being absorbed by your only child. So after hearing that story, we opened it up to The GIRLS.
Mona: I mean like damn, am I being unreasonable here? We have a very young impressionable boy in the house. And I know everything we do has an impact on what they believe is right and wrong. So am I suppose to chastise my son, while Mike is doing the same Sh*t!
the Mommies: Mona, before you even approach your son, you have to talk to your husband. I don’t know what y’all are doing when the lights are out, but he may definitely have a problem if this has been going on for months.
Mona: I mean, we don’t so things on a regular but its “enough”. But I definitely wasn’t expecting to see MONTHS of activity on there. I don’t even know how to talk about this with him. Like if he says, ‘well I need more’? Because, in reality I don’t want to give anymore than what he is getting now.
the Mommies: This has nothing to do with you and him per se. But he needs to see the correlation between his actions and his sons. You don’t even know if your son has watched the same things that your husband was watching. So I know you are worried about the YouTube stuff, but that is minor compared to those REAL videos.
Mona: I know. I know. But I just don’t know what he will say. That is what has me stumped right now. I need help!