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Mona is on her last nerve. She calls Mike and ask if he can pick up the dry cleaning on his way home from work. Mike gives her as many excuses as it takes NOT to make one stop on the way home. So you may say, “well maybe he is tired,” BUT when his mom calls for a can a mushroom soup that MUST BE delivered tonight he has no hesitation to making the 45 minute drive to his mom’s house. Throughout their seven-year marriage, Mona has been on edge with her mother-in-law. She can’t prove anything, but just has that gut feeling that his mom ask just to prove that she is in control. So now Mona is coming to the Mommies for some advice.
Mona: Do y’all understand where I am coming from? Am I taking this too far? I am just fed up that after seven years I feel like I am still competing with his mom about trivial things. The worst part is I work like 10 minutes from his mom’s house, and she knows this. She has NEVER called me and said “can you pick me up something from the market before you head home.”
the Mommies: Mona Mike is her only child. And given that his dad wasn’t in his life, she could feel like you stole something from her. How often do they actually talk?
Mona: Apparently they made a “promise” when he was younger that they would talk EVERY SINGLE DAY! This started while we were still in school and I thought nothing of it. I actually thought it was kinda sweet that he would check up on his mom while he was away. But I had no idea it would be like this.
the Mommies: So THIS has been going on before you even met him. WOW! You are in a stuff situation. Are you upset that he talks to her everyday or that your “honey do” list isn’t considered?
Mona: I want to say that latter, but I did think as we first starting dating that he would call me like that. You know just to check on me during the day, that must be a great feeling.
the Mommies: If you trust Mike, meaning he isn’t using this convenient trips to do some dirt. Then you need to decide if you are going to interfere with their relationship or just let it ride. When you thought it was going to help you, you were OK with it. Now that you see it is out of control, you have an issue.
Mona: I do trust Mike, but I just don’t like that he bends over backwards for her. She isn’t disabled or anything. She could do all the stuff she ask him for, by herself. I just want her to leave my husband alone. I just want her to know he is not a little child anymore.