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Below is our first topic, and “Mona” needs some help from the Mommies. And we want to know, What would you do?
Mona wakes up a few days before Christmas and starts her normal routine. She makes sure the book bags are packed for the last day of school before the break. At the last-minute she notices that one of the kids has a holiday sing-a-long today and parents are welcome to attend. She yells up to her husband, “Mike, do you have a lot of meetings today? Lisa needs one of us to go to her Christmas sing-a-long today.” Mona hears no response.
So she just continues and waits for him to come downstairs while getting the kids breakfast ready. Mike wakes up all the kids like normal and starts getting them to ready. Then Mike goes downstairs, “Good Morning, did you say something.” Mona responds, “Yeah, can you go to the school today.” Mike blurts out, “probably, I am tired of going to work anyway.” He continues, “maybe a break will be good, I need to really reconsider my life.” NOT A MID LIFE CRISIS, is all Mona can think about.
Mona shares with us that she hasn’t worked since they started having kids. At the time it was both economical and made sense. She could make sure the kids were well taken care of without that added cost of child care. But now, Mike wants to leave his 250K job to venture out on something new. That would be OK, but if were for another job, but Mike wants to explore being a professional photographer. He has never sold anything in his life, nor has even taking a photo class.
Mona (with a heavy heart): I just don’t know what to do. He has provided for us for so long. We have never even spoke of me getting a job again. I mean, I could work, but honestly I don’t want to. I would miss being there for the kids. But I guess I need to put this degree to some work.
the Mommies: Why is he talking about this now? Are you sure he didn’t get laid off, and trying to hide it? You need to make a game plan quick.
Mona: Ladies, I am trying to keep my composure. One, I think it would be different if he wanted to continue working and do this new thing, but he wants to quit. Two, I don’t want to blame him for anything, but he just isn’t seeing that this one decision will change EVERYONE’S life forever. He is doing pretty good at his job, but I didn’t ask him if he is getting laid off. I don’t know what to do.
the Mommies: Mona you cannot let this get you down, there are tons of things that this could be or could not be. It is possible that he is just going through something right now. Are you sure nothing else is wrong?
Mona: He has just been distant lately. I guess I am busy and he is busy, so we don’t really talk or hang out like we use to. I don’t know. It is just different, but shouldn’t it BE different after THREE KIDS! I just need to make sure the kids have a great Christmas, I DO NOT have time to cater to his ego right now.
the Mommies: Between Christmas and New Years, there will be nothing but time to talk. Get some wine to calm your nerves and find out what’s going on. You should not downplay his “artist thing”, but just find out what is really going on. You never know what God has planned for you, this could be a good thing.
Mona: I am really just tired of this, I have to take care of three kids and cater to this dudes Ego too. What would you do?