I have been, or can be if you click on a link and make a purchase, compensated via a cash payment, gift, or something else of value for writing this post. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.
Our “Mona” this month, is struggling with a relationship issue. She will be reviewing the post to get your thoughts.
I have had doubts about staying married for a few years now. We are on our eighth year of being married, and it just doesn’t feel right anymore. You know that feeling when you realize you are in love. And all you want to do to call or see that special man in your life. I’m not saying I don’t care for Mike, but I’m saying I could easily go a day, a week or probably a month without talking or seeing him and wouldn’t miss a beat. So then here comes Valentines….
Mona: So, are we doing anything this year?
Mike: I don’t know, what you want to do?
Mona: Well given that Valentine’s day is Thursday, if you haven’t planned anything, we maybe S.O.L.
Mike: Why do I have to plan it, because its ‘VALENTINE’S DAY’?
Mona: Well why do I have to plan every vacation, every child activity and everything else?
Mike: If you don’t want to do anything just say it, stop this blame game thing.
Mona: I just asked you ONE question. All I needed was a YES or a NO, should I write it on a paper with a check box, would that make it simpler for you?
Mike: You know what, I’m out! See you tonight.
Mona and Mike ended up not doing anything for Valentine’s day. I know that it has become VERY commercial, but I think most of us expect something during that today. Even if it is a card. Let’s turn it over to the Mommies to get their thoughts.
Mona: This is it for me. We are obviously not in love anymore. Although all of this drama happened at Valentine’s day, I would be lying to myself if I said that started it. I think we just have grown apart, I guess.
the Mommies: Mona we have known each other for a long time. HELLO! I was in your weeding. Is that really the issue? Mike has ALWAYS been Mike. For the last 9 years Mike has been this exact same way, so what’s different now?
Mona: Nothing is different, but that’s the point. NOTHING IS DIFFERENT! We are doing the same old stuff we always have been doing. He kept talking about all this stuff he was going to do with his life, and that is what I signed up for. But he isn’t DOING ANY OF IT.
the Mommies: So are you saying you fell out of love with him because he didn’t manifest into the ideas he had almost ten years ago. Seriously? Seriously?
Mona: I don’t know what it is. But I know I have big plans, but I don’t see how being with him is going to help me reach those goals. I talk to one of my co-workers all the time, and he is so motivated to improve his life. It feels great hearing how energized he is. I get energized just listening to him.
the Mommies: MONA TELL ME YOU DIDN’T!!
Mona: Ladies! it isn’t LIKE THAT. But that spirit of motivation is inspiring me to do more. I need that person motivating me, and I don’t know how to get Mike there.