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(please note: names have been changed to protect the innocent)
Mike comes to me on a Sunday morning and starts into “I have a lot of regrets in my life, and as I am getting older and wiser, I realize I can correct some of my regrets.” So I am seating there like “OK!, what does that mean”. He continues, “I want to pledge.” In my mind I am thinking dude you are damn near 40 years old, pledge for what? But he was looking really “sensitive” about it so I played along. I responded “What has brought this on?” I have known Mike since college, although we didn’t start going out until we just happened to bump into each other. I know we had the fraternity/sorority discussion very early on, since I am in a sorority. Back then, he just played down the conversation. I remember him saying something like, “it just wasn’t the right time” or something like that.
So against my own wishes, he pursues it. I cannot even remember how long the thing took, but it seemed over REAL QUICK! Not to mention any names, but this fraternity has a reputation for being REALLY NASTY (if you have been to college, I am SURE you know who I mean). Anyway, he was out during the week a couple of nights, but mostly it was a weekend thing (again NOTHING like what we went through). So I’m not expecting too much a meeting here and there. But No! This dude is OUT damn near EVERY NIGHT!!! And every day he is geared up with something related to that damn fraternity. So my husband who is almost 40 years old, now thinks he is back in college.
Time for some girl talk….
Mona: Honestly I am just disappointed. I thought he was a lot more mature than that. I mean I would never want to hold my husband back from doing anything, but I am thinking this is a bad decision. And now I need to bust his bubble.
the GIRLS: I am confused. Hasn’t Mike ALWAYS been on the go or out and about. Why are you so concerned now.
Mona: You know damn well why. It is one thing, to just hang out with some friends every so often. It is a totally different thing to hang out with a group a men that have groupies.
the GIRLS: I don’t get it. You are in a sorority, don’t you hang out too. I thin Mike will be fine.
Mona: I am a grown ass woman with two kids. So NO I don’t hang out like that. I may go out every so often and on special occasions. Besides that it is just meetings once a month. But this dude is trying to relive some days he think he missed. I am just not for it. Again we both work and have two kids, there is no time to be acting like some 20-year-old.
the GIRLS: It sounds like Mike is really passionate about this. I am not sure how you are going to address this. Knowing how that fraternity is, I just don’t see him wanting to volunteering to stay away when he just got in there.
Mona: AND if he tells me he is joining some step team, I am going to lose it.