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Literally, for the last twenty years I have looked forward to a time where Mike and I would be able to have the entire house to ourselves. We were on our way home from dropping our youngest off at college, and I blurted out “finally, we have time alone again.” I was thinking that he would be equally excited….not in the least! He started into now he has time to work on that wreck of a car in the back yard. Then about how he can start on some other project. He talked about EVERYTHING except us spending time together. When we were first together, and when the kids were younger, we use to always be together. I don’t want to be up under him and vice versa, but I was expecting a little bit of time.So now I am really in a rut. We both have our own “lives”, which has mostly focused on the children. But now what will our lives be like without the kids in the house.
the Mommys: WAIT! WAIT! WAIT! Are you saying he plans NOT to bug you or interrupt some peace and quiet and you are complaining. Are you crazy?
Mona: It isn’t like that. I still love him. And for the last 20 plus years we have focused on providing and doing EVERYTHING for the kids. I mean we have had a few vacations with just the two of us, but now it is JUST US. And I want to spend time with my husband.
the Mommys: Listen I get what you are saying, but you have to use this time for you. YOU also have focused on your family for the last 20+ years, don’t you think you should use this time for you. And then later on you can start hanging out more with Mike.
Mona: I am scared we have grown apart for damn near half of our lives. What if we have just grown apart? What if our entire relationship was just about the kids? What if now that kids are grown, we start really bring apart? I mean the majority of our conversations are just about the kids.
the Mommys: Mona I get it. I understand you want to make sure your marriage will survive, but shouldn’t you enjoy life too?